Is Your Marriage In Crisis- Are There Warning Signs

Is your marriage in crisis or are you perhaps deluding yourself that it isn't? Quite often one party in a marriage may not be happy while the other is oblivious to their partner's unhappiness and thinks that their marriage is going fine. A marriage in crisis may sometimes just look like a boring marriage that may have lost it spark and a couple may not do anything about it until it's too late. If you want your marriage to last then you need to be aware of the warning signs that your marriage may be in crisis. Don't just accept that your marriage is boring but its okay, if you feel that you have lost your spark then this is the time to do something about it. Your sex life is probably the first thing that you should look at and although this isn't the most important aspect of a relationship it is a crucial part of a healthy marriage. Do you struggle to remember when you last had sex because it was so long ago? Does having sex seem like a chore to either party? Has the spontaneity disappeared from your sex life? You can usually spot a marriage in crisis by looking at their sex life! If sex has become a chore in your marriage that doesn't mean the marriage is over, there is still a chance to save it. Most marriages will go through a stage of not having a great sex life, often after they have children. With each child that is born it becomes harder to keep the sex life active with kids running around and the Mom not having any energy left over for her husband. Most marriages will get through this stage and will find their spark again but not all do. A marriage is in trouble if it can't get past this stake and never breaks out of that pattern. When a couple cease to show each other any physical affection, then this could be a sign that the marriage is in trouble. If a couple are happily in love they do tend to show some physical affection toward one another so if this has stopped then you need to take action to get that spark back before it's too late. If you take a look at your marriage, do you and your partner show each other affection? Do you ever walk over and give your wife a hug for no reason? Do you tell her how lovely she looks? Do you give her a kiss on the cheek for no reason? If the answer is no, then maybe it's time you started doing some of these things. If you feel that you don't really need to do these things then you are probably deluding yourself. When you don't show each other affection you are really taking each other for granted and the next step on from that is resentment. If you notice that the spark has disappeared from your marriage, the good news is that you have recognized the warning signs on time and can do something about it. Make a point of showing your wife affection by telling her she looks lovely today or giving her a hug for no reason. You will be really surprised to find that she will enjoy this and will most likely respond by showing you more affection. Don't wait until your marriage is in crisis before you do anything about it, start putting the spark back into your relationship now.

What Is The Secret To Relationships-Common Sense

I'm sure if there were secrets to relationships someone would be making millions of dollars selling that secret. Although there is no secret as such there are many things that you can do to help keep your relationship strong and happy. Relationship secrets are really just common sense but they are things that over time we forget to do. 1. Love. Obviously a relationship needs love to survive and being in love is not enough if your partner doesn't know that you love them. You need to show each other that you love one another and you need to feel comfortable telling your partner that you love them. 2. Secondly you need to have respect in your relationship. If you don't respect one another then there really isn't much hope for a long and happy relationship. There is no point to being with someone that you don't respect and no point being with someone that doesn't respect you. 3. Always treat your partner with kindness. I'm sure you don't like it when people are nasty to you and your partner also wouldn't like it if they are treated nastily. Sometimes we take one another for granted and can be sarcastic and a bit nasty without meaning to be. We often treat strangers more kindly than we treat family so make a point to be kind to your partner. 4. Be thoughtful of your partners needs and do little things now and then to make him happy. It is amazing how much small gestures can make someone happy and improve a relationship. 5. Always be honest in a relationship. You cannot build a relationship on lies or when the truth does come out everything will fall apart. Always be honest and build your relationship on honesty and trust. Although these are not secrets they are important to a relationship and they are what relationships need to survive and be happy. When you haven't been doing these things it can be difficult to get back into the habit of them but it is worth putting in that effort. These are not hard things to do and they are things that you should do with someone that you love. Kindness, honesty and respect will go a long way to making a relationship happy and strong. There is more to a relationship than just existing with one another. You need to show each other that you love one another and this can be done with simple little expressions of love such as giving him a hug when he gets home from work or cooking his favorite meal and eating it by candlelight. Sometimes relationships can take a bit of work to make them strong and happy but over time these things will become natural and you will both be much happier with one another. If you can do these small, common sense things then you have found the secret to relationships.

How To Handle A Boyfriend Break Up

Have you broken up from your boyfriend? Do you feel like you just can't go on without him? Are you wondering if there is anything that you can do to get him back? If you are wondering if you can get your boyfriend back then you need to look closely at your life and the relationship you had and decide whether that is really what you want. Perhaps it is the thought of a relationship that you want rather than the guy himself. Perhaps you do love him but maybe he just isn't good for you. There really is a lot to consider before you go jumping into trying to get him back. If you do decide that you do want him back then there are steps that you can take to work toward that goal. However, if you decide that it is probably best for you to be apart then there are steps that you can take to help you move on. You need to reach some sort of closure so that you can really recognize that the relationship is over, when you find closure then you can begin to heal. Don't keep all your emotions bottled up or you will continue to hurt and find it more difficult to get over him. You can get your emotions out by doing the following: * See a counselor or therapist so you can talk about your emotions, talk about the relationship and they can help you to move on. With a counselor you can talk about things that you might not feel comfortable talking about to your family or friends. A third party isn't as personal so it is often easier to talk about things. * Talk to friends and family and get your feelings out in the open. If your friends or family just tell you to get over it and don't want to listen to you, then find someone else to talk to. You want a good friend that will be empathetic, supportive and help you work through your feelings. * Start a journal and write your feelings down. Even though writing your feelings isn't talking, it is still getting them out and giving you a way to release them. Poetry is often good too if you enjoy poetry then put your feelings in to a poem. Next you want to get rid of anything around the house that will remind you of your ex and especially get rid of things that belong to him. Return all his belongings to him and anything he doesn't want just throw away. If he has given you gifts that you can't bear to throw away then put them in a box and store them away somewhere where you won't see them every day. Then you need to make some plans to go out, perhaps you can go out with your friends. You don't want to spend too much time at home alone or you will just sit and think about your ex. It is best to go out and enjoy yourself. This is the opportunity to do the things you really love but perhaps didn't do too often because your ex didn't enjoy them. This is your opportunity to get to know the real you and enjoy yourself doing whatever you want to do. Do whatever makes you happy. Make some lifestyle changes - a change is as good as a holiday so they say. Start a healthy diet, go to the gym and exercise regularly. Start to feel really good about yourself so you can be happy with whom you are as an individual and not as part of a couple. By getting out and enjoying yourself and doing the things that make you happy you fill find that you begin to miss your ex less and less. You will become much happier as a person and will grow in self esteem and self confidence. You don't need to rush in to a new relationship, you will know when the time is right and perhaps it might happen when you least expect it. If you begin to have feelings toward someone else then you will know that you are well and truly over your ex. Then your boyfriend break up will be a thing of the past as you are moving on with your future.

I Just Want Him To Love Me Again

Women all over the world feel unloved and just want their man to love them again. When a relationship loses it spark and there is no intimacy left then a woman is often left saying to her close friends 'I want him to love me again'. Some women may be on the bad end of a divorce or breakup but just can't seem to get over their ex and think of nothing else but wanting to get back that man and his love. Some women may be the instigator of the divorce or breakup due to a lack of intimacy in the relationship, but later feel they have made a mistake and hope that there is some chance of rekindling the relationship. There are women worldwide facing similar situations and the one thing that they have in common is that they all want that love back. If you are in a position where you want to win back the love of your man you need to look at the relationship you had and wonder if there was anything missing in that relationship. What do men need? Men need attention and they like to know that you still find them attractive and that you admire him. While you may know that you love him, admire him and want him, it might not be so obvious to him so it doesn't hurt to tell him now and then how much you love him. Don't just tell him but show him that you love him, flirt with him a little and bring back the spark into the relationship. When a relationship goes on a woman will put less effort into the relationship, and so do men to some degree. A woman may start to dress more casually and just wear sweats around the house and forget about wearing make-up or sexy clothes, but men still like to see you looking nice. Just because they live with you doesn't mean they don't want to see you looking good. Did your husband or boyfriend leave you for another woman? Or do you lack trust in him and have convinced yourself that he has been seeing another woman? Women can sometimes become a little paranoid about their men looking at other women and then perhaps taking that even further. A woman always think that if their man has left them for another woman that it would be a beautiful woman when that isn't always the case. If their ex is dating an average looking woman then the wife will wonder what he sees in her. You should know that looks are not what your man is looking for, but it is respect and admiration that he wants from a woman. When you are your ex were together did you nag him all the time? Was he always complaining about your nagging? Is it possible that you nagged him because you weren't happy with him the way he was? A man wants his woman to be satisfied with him for who he is, not for who she wants him to be. If you were constantly nagging him then he most likely felt that you weren't happy with him the way he is. All relationships move past the initial honeymoon stage where admiration and flirting are constant, but unfortunately some of them lose the spark completely. You don't need to get back to that honeymoon stage because no relationship can stay at that stage forever, but there needs to be a happy medium. If you love your man and are proud of him and respect him then you need to let him know. You need to show him your love so he doesn't feel like you take him for granted. If you have been saying to yourself "I want him to love me again" then consider what might have gone wrong in your relationship and what you can do to make it right again.

Lost Love And How To Deal With It

You can be on top of the world when you are in love and then feel like a sinking ship when it ends. If you have lost love and have found yourself alone then you may be struggling to deal with it. When I lost love I told myself to put it down to experience and you can learn from your experiences. By using your lost love to learn from you can then move on with your life with a much better understanding of love. I remember one love in my life that I thought was 'the one'. He broke my heart and I thought I would never get over it, I believed that we were meant to be together and that there had to be some way to get him back. I didn't think I would ever fall in love again and really didn't want to; all I could think about was this one lost love. That is when someone said to me 'put it all down to experience' and I took that on board and kept reminding myself of that. I would remind myself that this relationship had just been part of my life experience in the incredible journey of life. It was an experience that I had to have to move on and become the better person that I am today. It was because of this lost love and how I used it to learn from that I was able to move on and find a much better and stronger love. You will find happiness again after losing love but it may take some time to get there. A broken heart doesn't heal overnight and those memories will remain in your mind for a long time. But as time passes they become more distant and you will begin to forget your ex and that love you felt for him. He may always have a special place in your heart, but make that special place one that you accept as being in the past so you can move on and give your heart to someone else. You can think back and analyse your relationship and see what went wrong. Did you do something wrong? Were you too possessive? Were you too clingy? Didn't you trust him? Did you flirt with other guys? There can be a number of reasons why a relationship ends and they may or may not be due to something you did. Sometimes people just fall out of love. If you do find that there was something you may have done to cause the relationship to end, then this is your opportunity to learn from that and avoid it happening again in the future. If you were possessive and didn't trust him then this is something you could work on to improve your own self confidence and learn to trust. No matter how heartbreaking it is when a relationship ends, you will get over it at some point and you can walk away from the relationship with some good memories. You can also walk away from the relationship with new skills that you can learn and grow from and a whole new attitude to life. Any negative circumstance in life can be used to learn from and then start again with a new, more positive approach. Try to see the positive aspect of any situation, even though that might seem difficult at first, and you can grow from the experience. Lost love is heartbreaking, but learn from it and grow and you will find love again, a much stronger love and you will be much happier.

How To Get Love Back Just Think It Through

Have you broken up from a relationship and wondering how to get love back? Being in love is such an amazing feeling but it can be absolutely devastating if that love ends. The ending of a relationship can be the worst feeling in the world. If you find yourself in this situation and want to know what you can do to make amends and get love back then why not try the following steps. Firstly you need to have a really good think about the relationship and work out if it is definitely over. Is it possible that you are 'just taking a break' or is it really over for good? Some couples do decide to take a break and spend some time apart with the possibility of getting back together and making it work. Others do break up with the intention of not getting back together but over time realize they were wrong and they get back together again. Then there are those relationships that are just not meant to work and those relationships are not worth trying to save. If you think that your relationship is one that is worth saving and your ex is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with then you can take steps to try and work things out. If you hurt your ex in any way then you need to make it clear that you are sorry for what you did. If you have changed as a person and she doesn't love that new person then you may need to consider going back to the person you once were - the person she fell in love with. You shouldn't rush her into coming back to you, if she is hurt or angry then she might need some time to herself to think things through and workout what she wants to do with this relationship. Remember that you cannot force someone to love you and if she just doesn't love you anymore then it may be time to move on. When you are trying to get love back, don't appear desperate as this will be a big turn off for your ex. You need to act mature and show her that you have changed and that you are prepared to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work. Don't go calling her every five minutes or sending her hundreds of text messages. Give her the space that she needs right now to calm down and think things through. After a week or so then give her a call and perhaps ask her to meet you to talk things through. Don't beg her to come back to you, but just apologize again for hurting her and let her know that you still love her. Tell her that you really want the relationship to work and that you want to talk things through and work on the problems within the relationship. An apology on its own is not enough to convince a woman that you have changed and that you will really put an effort into the relationship, you need to talk to her, listen to what she says and show her that you care about her feelings and opinions and want to work together to build this relationship. Getting over love can be very difficult but remember that if she really doesn't want to get back with you then you need to accept that and move on. However, if you can sit and talk to her maturely and she decides that she does still love you and would like to give it another go, then don't go straight back to what you were doing before you broke up, you need to change and remember everything she talked about and really make an effort to make it work.

Is There A Right Time To End A Relationship

If you are in a relationship that is having trouble you may find yourself wondering if there is a right time to end a relationship. Just how do you know when to make that decision that there is no future for you and your partner? If you have spent months or even years with this person it can be a very difficult decision to end that relationship. Some people will find that they still love their partner but they know deep down that the relationship is going nowhere and they don't have a future together. But when you still love a person you don't want to let that relationship go. You will consider all the options including staying with the person hoping that your love will be enough to save the relationship. There are other couples who think that their relationship is too difficult and just give up without really thinking it through and discovering whether there is a future or not. The problem with this is that often these couples are meant to be together and if they work at improving their relationship they could have a happy future together. Then there are the people who are in a terrible relationship but they stay together and keep on trying to make it work. Their friends and family tell them they are wasting their time and they should break up but they continue in their failing relationship. Even when infidelity is involved, they stay together in the hope that the cheating partner won't do it again and everything will work out. In this scenario it is usually best to end the relationship but they just can't seem to make that decision and this is often because they are more scared of being alone than they are of staying in the relationship. It can be very difficult to know when to end a relationship and you don't want to rush into making such a big decision. There are situations where it should be obvious such as an abusive relationship, but even in these cases many people still stay in the relationship. There is no excuse for abuse and if you are being abused then you should make that decision immediately to end the relationship. There are no second chances and there is no point telling yourself that it will get better because it rarely does in this type of situation. If you're partner has cheated on you then it can be difficult to make the decision to leave. If he has only cheated once there is a good chance it may never happen again and you can work through it. If he has been cheating for a long time or has cheated on more than one occasion then it isn't likely that he'll change and you really should consider moving on. There is no easy way to know the right time to end a relationship and it will all depend on each individual situation. Sometimes it is helpful to take a break for a couple of days on your own so you can clear your head and have a good think about the situation. Take a good look at the relationship and what has been happening and then decide whether this is the person you really want to spend the rest of your life with. Then you can decide whether the relationship is worth saving or whether you should end it now.

Forget About Studying Relationship Psychology

If you are having trouble in your relationship and you and your partner just don't seem to be getting on very well lately then you may find yourself studying relationship psychology trying to work out what has gone wrong. You could end up driving yourself crazy in your attempt to find out what the problem is and there are better options that will benefit you more. There are so many different books available about relationship psychology and they will all tell you something different, so how do you know which one is giving you the correct information? You really don't know who is giving you good information and the information that you need may also depend on your situation. Relationships can become trouble for various reasons so no one piece of advice will cover all relationship problems. There is a lot of theory behind relationships and different behaviors but whether those theories can help you is another story. Even trained counselors and relationship experts will often give the same advice to different couples when these different couples actually require different advice depending on their particular problems. There are just so many different reasons why relationships have problems. Some couples will argue a lot over money, child raising opinions, sex or other reasons. Even when couples have similar problems, the way that people deal with those problems can vary quite a bit. This doesn't mean that you can't find help to improve your relationship; you just don't need to study relationship psychology to get help. There is a great book available called 'The Magic of Making Up' that gives a lot of advice and much of what is discussed in this book can help with various relationship problems. It is a great self help course that will teach you to communicate better with your partner which can drastically increase the chance of improving your relationship. Not all relationships can be saved and whether your relationship is salvageable or not may depend on the problems that have led to the current state. If a relationship is salvageable then this is the book that can help you save it. This book will help you to make that decision on whether it is worth saving your relationship and if so how to do it. Too many couples will continue along in an unhappy relationship being in denial and not wanting to admit there is anything wrong. The longer a couple continues this way the bigger the problems will become. If there are problems in the relationship they won't disappear on their own, they need to be dealt with so you can move on and be happy together. If you love your partner and want to save your relationship then forget about studying relationship psychology and focus on saving the relationship and making each other happy again.

Going Through The Motions Of A Relationship Breakup

When a relationship breaks up both parties involved will experience different emotions during the breakup journey. Regardless of whether you were the person who initiated the break up or not you will still experience an emotional ride. If you have been with someone for a long time they become a big part of your life and so you will have some emotions involved when they are no longer such a big part of your life. It can be a little easier to get through the whole break up process if you can recognize the different steps and emotions that you go through. It is necessary to go through the different emotions as part of the healing process. If you don't go through the emotions you may not heal completely and will find it difficult to fall in love again. Each step may vary in how long it takes depending on the person. There are many factors that can determine how long the whole healing process will take. A person who is very confident and happy within themselves is likely to go through the healing process faster than a person with little self confidence and who is generally not happy with themselves. Let's take a look at the five steps of a relationship breakup. 1. Firstly there is pain. You will usually be struck with pain immediately. At first there will be some degree of disbelief but once that passes you will find yourself in a lot of pain. You won't feel like eating and you may have trouble sleeping and normal everyday tasks will feel like they require too much effort. At this time you may not even want your friends or family around you, you just want to be left alone. 2. Next you will go through a stage of denial. You will believe that the breakup is only temporary and soon your ex will realize they have made a mistake and will want you back. You may sit back and relax a little in your belief that everything will be alright and you will soon be back together. This can be a damaging stage if you linger here too long as it can stop you from moving on and finishing the whole healing process. 3. Anger is next. Your pain eases and you are no longer in denial and those feelings then turn into anger. You will wonder how you got to this place in your life and how your ex could do this to you. Your emotions during this stage can affect the way that you act so you need to be careful that you don't do anything hurtful or destructive that you might regret later. Also, if you hold onto this anger and can't move past it then you will find it very difficult to have a happy relationship with anyone else. 4. The next stage is the grieving stage. Just as you would mourn a death you would also mourn the death of a relationship. Even though the person hasn't died, they are no longer with you and so you will grieve the ending of what they two of you shared together. This is a sad stage and one in which you need to be aware of your feelings. Some people during this stage will believe that they will never find love like that again and can fall into a deep depression. It is normal to grieve the end of a relationship but just be careful that you don't become depressed. Grieve and then move on. 5. The final stage is acceptance. You will come to a point when you will realize the relationship is over and you will be accepting of that. You will begin to think about your future on your own and spend less time thinking about the past and about your ex. You may even become quite excited about the future you now look forward to and the possibility of finding love again. If you know what the emotional stages of a breakup are then it can make it easier to work through them. All of these emotions are perfectly normal so just work through them and you will soon find yourself looking forward to your future.